Okay: I said 'most women' -- that may or may not be true.
There are some guys at the bar that women may meet, then regret ever having had met. They probably didn't even have sex with them: more likely, they were simply friendly, and now that guy orbits them like a lonely planet in thrall with the sun. That was certainly more poetic than the need required, but you get the idea.
You feed a stray dog some food, and it will love you forever. Of course, when you feed a stray cat some food it will take to you, too. But then it will soon pretty much ignore you in the way cats do once their food needs are met. These guys at the bar: their needs are never fully met. So: stray dogs, in search of a warm heart.
The women would prefer the cat, to continue the analogy: they do not wish to have this guy greet them and want their attention from the moment they come in the bar. She will regret her initial kindness; he will be oblivious to her body language -- her angling her shoulder to keep him out of the conversation cone, for instance.
Most women don't want to embarrass someone socially. Okay: I said 'most women' -- that may or may not be true. I have a lot of anecdotes, but I really haven't done the math. I don't want to do that particular math; quantum physics would probably be easier to understand. Because there is probably a coherent consistency behind quantum physics. With women there are too many Xs and Ys in the algebra.
Anyway: most women at the bar don't want to embarrass these men. They are lonely, and most people can emphasize with lonely, albeit not as an unchosen lifestyle. But eventually you just want the lonely to leave you alone.
This is where her friends come in. Her friends know that she is the kind of woman to feed stray dogs and cats. And they will have no problem blocking off the guy, excluding him from their circle. And the guy usually then gets the message: a group of women can certainly get a point across when most of the women have no emotional attachment to the situation. And the guy has no self-esteem.
So the lonely guy takes his lonely to another part of the bar. But, if you watch, his eye will still be drawn to the woman who was kind to him. He will have sad dog eyes when doing this.
There are lonely women at the bar, too; perhaps another day.
- james james
Quantum mechanics is all about probabilities and things happening that logic dictates can't.
ReplyDelete